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My Dating Coach Said So
First, love thyself
“How To Make Him Chase You!”
Yup, I take advice from someone who used that sentence as a title of one of their YouTube videos.
What comes to mind when reading that headline? The first time I clicked on a video from one of the many dating coaches I follow on YouTube, I chastised myself for doing so.
I mean, come on, really?! Resorting to listening to these guys felt like defeat. I thought that recruiting the advice of random men- some who are still single!- about how NOT to be single meant that I was inadequate and that I would have to change myself to please The Man. All kinds of dissenting voices were shouting in my head at this point. I shouldn’t have to change myself to make another person love me, right?
That’s right, sort of…
Hear me out!
Of course, you shouldn’t have to change yourself to make someone else love you!
Does that even work? It might seem like it could- and you may even see results in the short-term, but it’s definitely not a good long-term strategy.
Beyond the click-baity headlines, though, some dating coaches are putting out some great content about how to get the results you want by growing and becoming a better you.