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Why Haven’t I Sought Child Support?
Seeking indifference instead
I was thinking just now about child support and asking myself yet again if I should go through the trouble. And it would be trouble.
It would be playing his game. That’s probably the biggest reason that I haven’t done it. Keep me engaged, opposed, and angry. Keep me giving him supply for his insatiable demand.
While watching a ‘Surviving Narcissism’ YouTube video today, Dr. Les Carter says that the number one concern that bothers every single narcissist is being deemed irrelevant.
Fighting for child support is definitely not showing him that he’s irrelevant.
I am not at the point of indifference, but I’ve had my moments. They are so delicious and I want to taste that again!
Do you disagree? I can see both sides. His children deserve his support, and he is legally required to support them. Technically speaking, anyway. In practice, though, you wouldn’t know he had a daughter. She removed herself from his control, and he hasn’t paid a dime for her since.
He actually said this to me once, “If they (our daughter and son) won’t come to my house, then I don’t have to pay for them”.
“They are your children, you are legally and morally responsible for them,” I…